The 1975: I Like It When You Sleep, For You Are So Beautiful Yet So Unaware Of It- Review


Fairly recently, I wrote a post about The 1975 and their impending second album, I Like It When You Sleep, For You Are So Beautiful Yet So Unaware Of It, as well as a little history of my personal experiences with the band and their previous album. At the time, I had only heard three of the new songs, but since then the full album has been released, and I have had time to take in the other 14 tracks.

For the sake of time (and repeating myself), you can read my thoughts on Love Me, UGH!, and The Sound here, as I’ve already written about them, but I will speak on my thoughts on the rest of the album in this post.

After having ILIWYSFYASBYSUOI for two days, I have two major takeaways for people who haven’t listened to the album yet:

  1. This album is very different than the band’s previous album, so if that’s what you were hoping for, you may be disappointed.
  2. You should listen to this album from beginning to end without shuffling the songs (at least the first time you listen to it)

In regard to my first point, I love this album. But I also loved their previous album. However, I could tell from the songs that I had already heard that the band was taking their sound in a slightly different direction. Knowing this, I wasn’t really shocked to see that this album wasn’t “The 1975 2.0.” I definitely don’t think this album’s style is for everyone, but I would recommend just going into your first listen with an open mind. There are a few songs on the album that are mostly musical interludes/have very little lyrics (Please Be Naked, and Lost My Head are great examples of this), and the title track “I like it when you sleep, for you are so beautiful yet so unaware of it” has very little lyrical content, but is over 6 minutes long. It’s a very unconventional album.


All of this being said, it brings me to my second point. Obviously after listening to the album, you will decide your favorite songs and skip around to listen to them. But, at least the first time you listen to this album, try listening to it from beginning to end in the order intended by the band. Artists put a lot of thought into the order that their songs should appear on the album, and in the case of ILIWYSFYASBYSUOI, the order of the songs as presented on the track list flow together so well. The opening track “The 1975” is a great opener and makes you feel excited to listen to the rest of the album, while “Please Be Naked” transitions into “Lostmyhead” almost perfectly. I have already said to friends that I need to buy this album on vinyl because it’s one of those records that is just holistically good- from beginning to end it just flows from one song to the next.

Currently, my three favorite tracks off the album (not including Love Me, UGH!, or The Sound) are: If I Believe You, Lostmyhead, and The Ballad of Me and My Brain:


If I Believe You-This song is clearly about religion and religious doubts, which is ironically paired with Gospel influence as well as some R&B influence. Sonically, the song is cool and sexy. I was particularly fond of the line “I mean if it was you that made my body/You probably shouldn’t have made me atheist.” It’s just a big, almost anthemic-sounding song delivered in such an interesting, different way.

CVqMD0KXAAA7JffLostmyhead– This song only has four lines of lyrics, yet it is still so heart-wrenchingly sad-sounding. It transitions from the sad, stripped-down (no pun intended) “Please Be Naked,” but the use of synth and electric guitar on this track makes it more intense. The vibe reminds me of M83’s “Wait,” which makes me think of The Fault In Our Stars, which only makes this song sadder. I wouldn’t be surprised if “Lostmyhead” showed up in a movie or an episode of Grey’s Anatomy sometime.

CVqMEd3WUAEjaHrThe Ballad of Me And My Brain– Even though this song is about the effect of fame, I
think the concept of feeling like you’ve lost your mind is something a lot people can relate to. And they relay that concept so well in this song. The lyrics are delivered in a way that sounds like Matty is almost screaming, which matches up with the anxiety that’s being sung about. I also really enjoyed the drums on this track.


After listening to the entire album, I totally understand why Love Me, UGH! and The Sound were chosen as singles. They’re much more radio friendly than a lot of the songs on the album, and I think that the band is more than ok with that. I Like It When You Sleep, For You Are So Beautiful Yet So Unaware Of It, doesn’t exactly sound like an album that is aiming for #1 on the Billboard charts.

There’s really a lot of great content on this album, and I would encourage everyone to at least give it a shot (you can stream it in all the usual places). And it’s currently #1 on US iTunes, which has to mean something, right?

The band also released the music video for “The Sound” on the same day as the album, and I am completely obsessed with it- I think the concept is so smart and it’s their best video off the new album. So, I’m just going to leave it here…


Have you listened to the new 1975 album yet? Any favorite tracks? Let me know in the comments, I’d love to chat about it.

“Return Of Kings” is the most terrifying thing I’ve seen in a long time

Over the past couple days, you may have seen news articles shared about a website called “Return of Kings” and it’s supporters.

But before I get into current events, and why this is in the news, let’s get some context.

Return Of Kings is a website for men who believe in “neomasculinity”- basically the concept that promotes men displaying “traditional” traits of masculinity such as dominance, while females should be submissive. The website also explicitly states that they believe men to be more intelligent than women, and simply “better” in almost all respects.

This excerpt from their About page sums things up pretty well:

Return Of Kings is a blog for heterosexual, masculine men. It’s meant for a small but vocal collection of men in America today who believe men should be masculine and women should be feminine.

ROK aims to usher the return of the masculine man in a world where masculinity is being increasingly punished and shamed in favor of creating an androgynous and politically-correct society that allows women to assert superiority and control over men. Sadly, yesterday’s masculinity is today’s misogyny. The site intends to be a safe space on the web for those men who don’t agree with the direction that Western culture is headed. If you are new, check out our top 35 posts of all time.

Women and homosexuals are strongly discouraged from commenting here.

Since, I’m “strongly discouraged” from leaving my comments on their website, and I would never dare to do so, I am going to write about my thoughts here.

I am a feminist.

I think that feminism in general still has a lot of stigma attached to it in this day and age, with people often associating it with “man-hating,” or just listing off reasons why it’s unnecessary.

The literal definition of feminism is “the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.” Not that hard to understand, right? It is something I have always assumed was easy to support, but every day I am shocked at how wrong that assumption is.

People often argue that women nowadays are treated equally and fairly to men in pretty much all cases. While it’s true that we have come a long way, I think that there is still a long way to go. For example, the pay gap– yes it does exist, and no I am not getting into it, because it’s not really what this blog post is about. However, if you’re interested, this video explains it (and does so pretty well):

And while people may argue over the real extent of a gender pay gap along with other similar issues, it’s clear that there is a bigger issue at hand: there are still people out there who strongly and hatefully believe women are lesser than men, and should be treated as such in every respect (and significantly so). Those are the kinds of people who are flocking to this website, and they are more than willing to share their opinions.

Just a few of the articles on Return of Kings include: “5 Reasons Not To Have A Breadwinner Wife,” “Men Benefit From Acting Potentially Violent and Explosive Around Women,” “Always Subtract 40% From Every Woman’s Appearance,” and “3 Ways To Survive (And Exploit) The Slutification Of America.”

There are plenty of other articles (on every subject from politics to professional life to dating) and I’m sure that looking deeper into the contents of the website, I could find even worse things. However, the more time I spent on this website, the angrier I got.

The reason I ended up writing this post in the first place was because members from this website were planning official “meet-ups” for this Saturday, February 6th in practically every state in the US and multiple countries.

Being an internet troll and writing horrible things is one thing, but mobilizing a small army of entitled, misguided, dangerous men is another. That is what sets this “community” apart from other ignorant dudes writing things on the internet. I have seen plenty of “meninist” social media posts and blog posts in the past. I have always thought that “meninist” Twitter accounts and other things of that nature have been in poor taste. However, their comments (while still offensive) are less of a call to action and more so a way to crack sexist jokes and gain followers.  This group of people who talk in the comments sections on Return of Kings seem more aggressive, more dangerous, more hateful, and more willing to meet in a public space to display their beliefs.

The thought of so many of these people meeting in one place is one of the most horrifying things I could think of. Mob mentality is real, and who knows what kind of harm these people could cause when they feel they are being backed up by their peers.


Seeing The North End in Boston on that list of meet-up locations made me feel sick to my stomach.

As a young woman living in the city, I have always been told by people to “be careful” and to “be safe” when I’m out. Girls are taught from a pretty young age that we always need to be on the defensive and keep an eye out for any threats, because it’s typically us who get targeted and attacked.

With this already in the back of my mind, at all times, learning about this event filled me with the purest form of terror. A group full of the exact people you should be afraid of is not something I’d like to imagine in a hypothetical situation, and it’s certainly not something I’d ever like to experience. After discussing this event with friends at school, they said they might change their plans for the weekend because this was supposedly happening. Because they were genuinely scared.

And people may argue “Oh, well that’s what these people want, you shouldn’t let it dictate your life.” But, why would you risk being out when the members of this website have already made it clear that they don’t care about women, and don’t value us as human beings. If they are looking at this website every day, reading about how women are “sluts” who are less intelligent and less important than them, then it becomes pretty easy to justify treating women poorly. These “values” (I use this term very loosely here) could be exhibited differently by different people, but what if one of those people at the meet-up acted on those “values” violently or aggressively? Does it only take that one person to set off a horrible chain reaction?

These men don’t believe rape is real. They believe “a woman’s value depends on her fertility and beauty.” They view women as an opposing team, an enemy.

Knowing these things, why would I ever risk putting myself anywhere near a place I knew these people may be.

As more mainstream news outlets picked up this story, the pressure and threats to members of this group grew.

Just three days before this meet-up was supposed to take place, the founder of Return of Kings (and the organizer of this event) made a post to the website that the official February 6th meet-up had been cancelled:

I can no longer guarantee the safety or privacy of the men who want to attend on February 6, especially since most of the meetups can not be made private in time. While I can’t stop men who want to continue meeting in private groups, there will be no official Return Of Kings meetups. The listing page has been scrubbed of all locations. I apologize to all the supporters who are let down by my decision.

I cannot express how angry it makes me that the “safety” of these men was discussed, because it was never their safety that was at stake. I truly believe someone could have gotten hurt at one of these meet-ups, and it wouldn’t have been a man in the group.

And while I’m glad that these events got cancelled, I would still advise people who live near the areas they were scheduled for to keep an eye out for anything suspicious. Like the post said above, people could still meet unofficially, and they will probably be angry if they do so. Just reading the comments section on that specific post was proof enough. I plan to stay far away this weekend.


It’s very obvious that this group of people is an extreme case. I don’t know a single person who I think would be a user of this website. However, it does demonstrate why feminism is so important in today’s society– there are people out there who disagree with the idea of feminism so much that they have literally created online communities designed to oppress women and disrespect them on a regular basis. I’m not sure if it’s out of pure hatred or feeling threatened, but it’s clear in a lot of small ways and a lot of large ways (like this case) that we still have a long way to go before true equality is reached.

Finally, in regard to arguments made about the intellectual inferiority of women on Return Of Kings, I’m just going to laugh. Because that belief is laughable. A vast majority of the best, most successful professors I have had in college have been women. A vast majority of people I look up to due to their knowledge and drive are women. A vast majority of the most brilliant people I know are women. 

So, you guys can have your stupid website for now. The joke’s on you, though. Because I, a woman, could very well be your boss one day.